Calvin, Joyce and Darz moving hay

Cohesive: “Tending to unify, harmonize, or be consistent.” Why do I bring this up? Because, as you are living in a whirlwind of activity with your family, you need to think about creating a Cohesive Family: It’s when the members of the whole family work together well. A cohesive family has members who pitch in to help with everything from making dinner to taking care of the yard to painting the house.

Ok, so now you may ask, “How do I create a Cohesive Family?”

There are many things you can do, but among the top items on the list should be weekly family meetings. I drum on this subject from time to time because I believe it’s one of the most important things you can do to create a cohesive family, and the last time I wrote a blog on this subject was close to a year ago today. (here:

Your meetings don’t have to be long. In fact, they shouldn’t be much more than an hour and it depends on the ages of your kids. Every meeting should include:

– The weekly schedule: Everything that you know about that is scheduled, like kids’ sports, school events, Dr. and/or dentist appointments, etc. As the subject is brought up, this is the time for everyone to let members know what they have on their plate for the week.

– Chores: Who will do what?

– Meals for the week, with suggestions from the kids.

– Something fun to discuss and plan for. This might be a family trip, or an event that you’ll all attend, or a birthday coming up.

So, what are you waiting for? I know, it’s not that you’re waiting… the baby is crying for something to eat, the boys are fighting and making a mess of the house, and the older ones are zoned out on their i-pads. What better excuse to start right now to get everyone focused on pulling your household in the same direction?


Most of our kids (Fam 1 and Fam 2) after Leo’s wedding.


Family 2 having a good time at Bohemia


A visit to the Alaskan kids (of Family1) and grand-kids.

cohesive Kids

Some happy, some not.


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